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Grand-Pals: Grandparents Connecting CPS has custody of my grandson and we petitioned for custody of him in July. The Judge told CPS to do a home check and a background check. Neither were ever done. We live over a hundred miles from where my grandson is but we decided to move up there to be closer to him. No jobs up in the area forced us to move back down where we were. The case is a hardship on not only our son but on us. We know he would never hurt his son. New evidence might just set our son free (we hope) We can't keep going up there for the court cases my husband will lose his job. Well we lost any chance of getting our grandson now. I truthfully don't think they had any plans to give him to us, they want to keep him up there so they get money for him. (I heard that that is what they do up there) It is devastating to think that he will go to people that don't know him and love him like we do. He is only a year and a half and we are being robbed of the best years of his life. He has brain injury and cortical blindness and they want to out him with someone that has experience with a disabled child instead of his family who could do the same for him as anybody else and love him more. Please if anyone can help us with information on what we could do please e-mail us. Another problem is we cannot afford a lawyer and that seems to be a big problem with us getting him. I have never in my life seen such discrimination. We want our grandson with family not with strangers. I cry for my grandbaby every day and will never stop trying to fight for him. Don't Get To See Granddaughters: I am a 55 year old grandmother, and I live on the south coast of the United Kingdom, I have three sons , the eldest having the two daughters, when I ask him to let me either have the grand children I am told no, and if I ask, he says, "I'm not stopping you from seeing them." I don't speak to them, I don't get any acknowledgement when my husband and I send them gifts, yet these two lovely granddaughters end up staying and going with the wife's father and family. They are now 10 and six and every obstacle that can be made is made, to get to see them is a traveling time for 3-4 hours my husband is 69 and doesn't need this long distance. We have now virtually no contact what so ever. My son wife was fine whilst engaged but as soon as she got that wedding ring on her finger she changed. It seems so unfair. Any suggestions? Visitation Problems: My son & his wife just got married (cart before the horse so to speak) Hanna is one year old. His wife does not like me at all. I have tried to get along with her. She is very possessive with Hanna and my son. I have asked my son to bring Hanna to visit but Tina rules and she wont let him. I don't know what else to do. I am 72 and won't be around to much longer. I need some advice. Shall get some legal advice? Raising My Granddaughter: "I am raising my 19 month old granddaughter. My daughter is in jail in another state, she is 19 years old. I found out today they have her on almost 24 hour lockup and have denied her medications for several days. She is asthmatic and must have her inhaler. She has not been given a lawyer or a hearing, they have violent inmates with non-violent and the male guards emotionally abuse the women inmates. I don't know where to turn, If any one has any advice it would be greatly appreciated. Click here to email Lola. Grandchild Not Receiving
Child-Support: Hi, my daughter is 19 and attends collage 3 days a week
and work 2. She and her daughter live with us. The father does not give my
daughter any money. They are still together and he lives with his parents
he is 22 years old. How can I make my daughter understand he needs to pay
he child support so we do not have to pay for everything, he pays for very
little. The baby is now 16 months old and I don't think that the
father has spent 500 dollars on her since she was born. My daughter and I
pay for everything, what can I do and what are my rights as a grandparent
when I am raising my grandbaby. I also baby-sit 5 days a week for her and
don't get paid anything, money is not what I am looking for myself I want
to help my daughter and my grandbaby but I feel that the father/boyfriend
is just taking advantage of all of us, he has a free ride so to speak. Can
you please help? - Cathy How Do I Cope? - I am a 39-year-old grandma of 6; I have custody of 3 of them, an 8-month-old boy, a 7-month-old girl and a 2-year-old girl. My other three are a 7-month-old girl, 3-year-old girl and a 4-year-old girl. How do I cope with the new changes and dealing with the way my kids live (drugs, alcohol and a lot of court issues)? I can’t handle custody of six I am single and scared with the three I have now. How can I forgive myself for feeling I some how destroyed my kids because of the way they are living? How can I protect my grand children from all the neglect and abuse? It is just the babies and I. I have no family or friends and I am on disability. Thanks for any feedback. Click here to email Lisa Lost in New Mexico: I have had physical custody of my grandson since he was born and he is 11 now. His mother has resurfaced and, though she doesn't seem to have much interest in him, she does use him against me whenever it suites her. I want my grandson to be safe. I want him to have a relationship with his mother, but I want him to know that I am still going to keep him with me. When she came back, his first question was, do you still have legal custody of me? My mother can't take me away, can she? I told him he was safe, but I do not have legal custody of him. I thought about adoption, but that seems too hard on every one plus he will loose benefits that he needs, mostly Medicaid. I don't want to destroy my daughter by legally taking her parental rights though, practically I have had them for a long time. I'm also afraid that, since I am a single grandmother and not in great financial or physical shape, the court might not give me my grandson. If there are more grandparents out there who would just like to talk, please contact me. Being a grandparent can be very isolating. Spanking: I have 3 grandchildren, all of whom are precious, of course. And all of them are very well behaved. One of my son-in-laws is basically a very good person. There is only one problem. I believe he is too "physical" in disciplining his 20 month old daughter. He spanks her and spanks her pretty hard when she does something he feels is inappropriate. Don't get me wrong; I believe in discipline - but appropriate discipline. Do you feel it is inappropriate to spank a 20 month old? I want to say something to him so badly but I am afraid that he will not allow me to see the children if I interfere? Any suggestions? - JanMoe1 Need Help - Don't Know Where To Turn: I am so upset. I am not allowed to see my grandchildren. I have three. One seven, one two, and a new one. My granddaughter and I were very close. She was my world. My mother passed away and my son and daughter-n-law got very very greedy when they didn't get everything. I was then not allowed to see or talk to my grandchildren. It has been two years since I've seen her or talked to her. I write her a letter every single day. Just for them to throw it away. I know she never gets to see them . I miss her. Can't find any one that will help me as this state does not have grandparents rights. Don't know where to turn. I keep making myself sick, being upset all the time. Please someone help me - Nana Help Me Give Advice To My Son: His mother-in-law is wanting custody of his son. Our grandson is 8-years-old and my son is 37. Our grandson has lost his mom due to her long illness of two years and now the mother-in-law is adamant that she has special concerns and wants custody! The court has advised them to go for counseling. The grandmother is still wanting to pursue the custody battle. Counselor feels the grandmother is replacing the child with her daughter who has passed on. Many bills meetings and attorneys for my very capable son who is a great father. Please advise. Need Help Petitioning Custody: Has anyone ever petitioned for custody of their grandchild when they have been in the custody of Child Protection and had a hard time getting
them? My grandbaby was taken away from his parents when he was 3 months old and been in child
protection custody since 2003 and we have been fighting for custody and gotten nowhere. They always have an excuse. The child is in a rehabilitation
hospital, but they are doing nothing that I could not do myself. There are plenty of rehabs I could take him
to. I feel that he would be better off with family then in a hospital. They are planning to put him up for adoption in
February of 2005. I am frantic. He needs to be with his loving family not a family that doesn't know him. Grandma Raising 6-year-old: Hello my name is Christine, I am a grandparent, and I am bringing up my little granddaughter on my own and I wondered if there were any other's in my situation I would dearly love to email and make friends and also share my happy and sometimes frustrating times bringing my now 6-year- old little one. So many word's describe her nowadays ...... Please can you help or give me some advice on making friends I would be so grateful . I am new to the computer but my granddaughter puts me right i so look forward to your reply. Click here to email Christine. Legal
Rights? Two years ago my son's wife skipped out from her home in
Arkansas back to New York where she is from with my three grandchildren
after 12 years of marriage to my son. We do not have a very good
relationship with my son's wife - she does not want us to be involved at
all. My son and his mom have not seen the children since.
August 2, 2004 my son was killed in an auto accident - I think because of
this we were finally able to see our grandson and have him here where we
live in Alabama for three weeks in August this year. Grandparent with Visitation Issues: I am a grandparent, that needs a solution to my problem. My daughter and her husband, are separated and in pursuit of a divorce. My daughter's husband was stationed at Travis Air Force Base up north and is now home. Last year she decided that she could not financially take care of her sons. Her husband, was taking care of her and the boys. Anyway, now she signed a notarized letter giving her stepfathers wife, temporary guardianship. She filed, the paper work last October and was finalized in December. So now, I don't get to see my grandbabies like I would. My ex-husbands wife said, If I was to call once a month then I could see the grandkids on a supervised visitation. I told her, I don't do supervised visitation. She is not blood related. She would not let me have the oldest overnight at my house. So I was told by a lawyer that I needed to stoop to her level in order to see my grandkids. My daughter lives in Southern California, 1.5 hrs away from her boys. I live 1/2 hr. away. My daughter, has yet to get her life together. Plans to come into the county that her children are living in. And in hopes to find a job. So when, my daughter is visiting the boys I take that chance to see them. Does anyone, have any ideas? Grandmother --"Help I'm at my wits end!": Hi! I'm Jaimie, mother of 6, grandmother of 2. My youngest grandchild is 10 months. I haven't seen him in quite some time. My son and the mother were not married and he went to prison about 6 months ago. The mother is 18, spoiled, has been aloud to do whatever, and stay out however long she wants for 4 years. Anyway she won't let any of my family see him. My mom is so heartbroken. She won't except any of our gifts for him. My son is completely torn up over this. She told him he doesn't deserve to have any pictures of the baby. She says her counselor has told her to keep the baby away. I just don't understand. We have never treated her badly. Anyway on the other side, the mother of my 2 year old granddaughter, signed custody over to me when she was 5 months old. The mother has visited her once, last January, even though she hasn't left the area. My son, the father of this one, got home from prison in October. He saw his baby for the 1st time then. Well the newness wore off fast. I'm 42, divorced, my oldest is 25, my youngest is 13, I have my son, the father, 21, my son 18, my daughter 16 and my granddaughter living with me. I work very hard to provide for them. I can't get either son to get a job. No one helps cleanup. My parents baby-sit while I work. I'm at my wits end. Need someone to talk to. Grandpals Home : 1 : 2 : 3 : 4 : 5 : 6 : 7 : 8 : 9 : 10: 11 |
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